Wow, did we have the same doctor because my story IS your story!
I had asked my doctor how I would look and feel 9 days after surgery because my family was due in from out of state. He told me I would be "beautiful" and very pleased.
I didn't mind when I didn't look beautiful. I too was bruised all the way down to my chest but I knew this was normal and my fair skin is probably more sensitive.
I was concerned about the numbness and the burning sensation in my mouth. I asked him about it at every follow-up visit. He told me the numbness would go away in 4 to 6 weeks and everyone has different sensations. He obviously didn't want to talk about it. But I believed him and it was OK because he had told me the surgery went very well with no complications. So this was just part of the package - I just needed to wait it out.
When I called him almost 4 weeks after the surgery and told him the right side of my chin was swollen like a golf ball and I thought I had an infection, he told me that it couldn't be an infection but to come in anyway. When I got there, he looked at it from the outside, briefly looked inside and sent me home and told me it must be inflamation and would go away.
When I called him the next morning, I told him I knew it was an infection because I had the same thing happen with a wisdom tooth many years ago. Again he said he didn't understand how it could be an infection but to come in again anyway. Again, he sent me away without thoroughly examining my mouth. He thought I had an inflammed tooth and sent me to my dentist.
Luckily, my dentist got me in right away, concerned that the infection was traveling into my neck. He immediately found the abcess in my mouth oozing yellow puss and put me on a strong dose of clindamycin.
Anyway, that night the doctor brought me into his office after hours and without explaining anything to me, put me in his chair, stuck needle after needle into my mouth and chin, cut me open again and dug and dug and dug with forceps until he "tore" the silicone implant out of my chin - an implant that he put in without my consent!!! I felt at that point like I was in a mad scientist's lab. When I finally got up, my back was completely drenched in sweat. He patted my shoulder and again told me I would be fine. Today, my chin has strange dimples and wrinkles basically whenever I put my lips together.
This doctor told me in our final conversation that he still didn't believe it had been an infection. He also told me that he may have touched the nerve but that the numbness would go away some day.
I'm sorry this is so long. You really "hit a nerve" (haha) with me because this is what it's all about! I can't stand the thought of this "talented" and "respected" doctor getting away with what he did to my life without being held responsible. No "I'm sorry, I made a mistake". I can't accept that.
Keep your chin up NJB and I'll try too!